The story of the cheating spouse….

Nemesis and the broken heart

Nemesis and the broken heart

A few days back I was having a chat with a very close friend of mine about love and betrayal. She was telling me about a close friend of hers who was recently going through a messy break-up with her husband cheating on her with her best friend. She was telling me about how her friend is going through a major crisis and low self-esteem cause of this, and how was she repeatedly asking herself, “where did i go wrong?”. What made matters worse was the in-laws going around and telling everyone that the fault lay with the girl, as she could not hold her husband back (I always wonder about these statements made, but that is a story for another day).

Hearing the entire story, I somehow was left complete confused. Here is the way I saw the problem :

The girl had a husband who turned out to be a cheater and a piece of work and who never loved her
The girl had in-laws who turned out to be the worst kind of in-laws any girl can ask for.

She lost them

The guy had a wife who loved him, dearly enough to cry even now, knowing what a piece of work he is

He lost her

So, can someone explain how the girl was the loser? As far as I see, she came out of the clutches of some of the worst people, she could ever be with and a life with a husband who did not love her, and the husband came out losing the woman who loved him to death. As far as I see isn’t it the man who is the loser and should be asking himself “why me?”, and not the other way round.

And, as far as the friend was concerned, I see it this way, she loves her friend a lot and so took away all her pain for herself, since now she has to live with this piece of shit….and trust me, if a man cheats once, he will cheat again, and imagine living with such a person for the rest of your life.

Correct me, if am wrong, but can there be any greater nemesis than this?

(PS: My theory would have been the same had it been a wife cheating on the husband)

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  • Kriti  On February 21, 2011 at 9:23 am

    Absolutely Priya – Its the man’s question and not the other way around. good one …

    • priyashmita  On February 21, 2011 at 12:17 pm

      Thanks Kriti..glad you agreed

  • Paul Field  On February 21, 2011 at 12:06 pm

    Cheating on someone, especially with their friend, leaves a understandable sense of loss with the wronged person. But when the impact of this blow to their pride subsides, they will find themselves happy to be rid of both people.

    Finding out you have a false friendship and relationship is not as bad as never finding out and continuing through life deceived.

    Good post, thank you!

    • priyashmita  On February 21, 2011 at 12:15 pm

      Paul that is my point. Imagine living your life with such pieces of work…

      Thanks for the compliment

  • Sulekha  On February 21, 2011 at 1:43 pm

    He is definitely the biggest loser in this situation. And the in-laws were second, imagine blaming the injured party!!

    • priyashmita  On February 21, 2011 at 1:45 pm

      Isn’t that the usual in India Sulekha? And I cannot understand why the aggrieved party feels like they are the loser

  • Swati  On February 21, 2011 at 3:31 pm

    Completely right Priya…the husband wanting to move on is his decision, and yes losing your friend is his loss, but the in-laws should be baked in an oven!!!

    • priyashmita  On February 21, 2011 at 3:41 pm i was telling my friend tell her to go to her best friend and say thank you..thank you for taking the worst thing that happened to me and making the pain yours…only a true friend can do me nothing would screw that best friend’s happiness more than that

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