Parenting…#3

My parents

My parents

This is my third article on parenting. This was an incident which happened with me when I was in College. At that point I felt it was funny and my dad was cool. But today when I see many of my friends and associates having a strange relationship with their parents where the parents do not know what the kids do, who they meet, or the fact that kids drink and smoke to glory but at home pretend to be all saintly, I realise what I had got from my parents. A trust which is so rare today among parents and kids. Both my parents had a rule for me that there should be nothing they hear about me from someone else, and today I realise the worth of that trust. This incident was one of the few examples of the trust my parents always had in me, and touch-wood always will.

Well you know how it is in India..a boy and a girl are seen out together and immediately tongues start wagging….now i had a lot of male friends in college…there was no other choice as there were 45 boys and 5 girls in each specialisation..anyway nevertheless fact is i had loads of male friends…and of course when i bunked classes i used to go out with them…

Now one day a neighbour saw me with a male friend in a crowded mall area…and promptly in the evening when he saw my dad he went and told him..”today i saw your daugher in this area…SHE WAS WITH A BOY” (with a lot of emphasis on the boy part). So my dad looked at him and shook his hands and said and this is quote unquote my dad “Thank you so much for telling me this. I was always worried my daughter has become invisible and people cannot see her. Thanks for telling me she can be seen. Next time when you see her go and say Hi. That way you will clear one more myth I have that my daughter can even talk when she is outside?”….

LOL…you should have seen the look on the neighbour’s face…never again did he try and tell my dad anything about me again 🙂

That day this incident seemed funny to me but today when I look back I realise what amount of trust and faith and liberty was given to me, something now nearly a decade after college I still find lacking in parents of many of my friends.

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Comments

  • Susan Deborah  On February 11, 2011 at 5:51 pm

    Your dad rocks. When parents are so, the children can never slip. I agree and endorse all that you have said in this post.

    Nice to meet your thoughts here dear Priyashmita.

    Joy always,
    Susan

    • priyashmita  On February 11, 2011 at 5:52 pm

      Thanks Susan. Yes he did rock and so does my mom. Touch-wood have been lucky to have great parents

  • Jessica Mokrzycki  On February 11, 2011 at 8:01 pm

    It’s great that your parents had so much trust in you. I think it’s important to spend a lot of time laying a strong foundation for children in their earlier years so that when they become young adults you feel comfortable giving them the freedom they need to spead their wings and fly. Seems like your parents did a great job laying that foundation for you 🙂

    • priyashmita  On February 11, 2011 at 8:08 pm

      Thanks Jessica. Yes my parents had and still have a lot of trust in me. We were always allowed to be our person and no one ever hovered over us all the time. We were given freedom and most importantly it gave us a sense of responsibility. We never ever blamed others when things went wrong

  • Vivek Chamoli  On February 11, 2011 at 9:45 pm

    Hi,
    Thats a great bond you shares with your parents. And today its this bond is missing ..as reflects in todays youth.
    What is amazing about any bond is the trust we have over each other , being parents its high ..and so as a child we also tries to live upto that expectations.

    I had a Nice read.

    Take care.
    Keep smiling.
    have a great weekend.

    • priyashmita  On February 11, 2011 at 9:49 pm

      vivek even i find this bond missing when i interact with many of my friends…..feels sad…though some of us are blessed to have great bonds with our parents..

  • kourtnie  On February 19, 2011 at 9:31 pm

    your good

  • katie  On February 21, 2011 at 2:54 pm

    as if!

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